Like it's not your job to fix her, it's not her job to fix you. I've been there. I'm still there every now and then. Trying to find out what's wrong with her so I can fix this. But hey! For me it's my job tp fix peoples heads. But this is something that cannot be fixed. You and I, we need to understand and ACCEPT that. She needs to through this by herself. I'm not there yet totally. But I'm going there. Like it was written here somewhere: keep walking but don't look over your shoulder to see if she's following. Take a rest every now and then and take a peek if you see her. Then just keep walking.

Me:39 W:36
S:12 D:9
T:14 M:11
Separation:sep. 1 2017
D filed oct. 2017
D finalized july 2018
OM confirmed feb 2018
D finalized July 2018

The fact is this. You have to be in pain before you can learn.