KitCat, many an LBS has come on here absolutely certain that his/her spouse was not having an affair, only to find out that yes--an affair was going on all along...
in any case, do not respond to his boyfriend comments... ignore, ignore, ignore... you say he pretty much has said he doesn't want to talk with you at all right now, so please, for your own good, stop with the interactions... sharing the video, etc... give him his space... he didn't respond the way you had hoped, and that makes you feel a certain way--a way that is not helpful to you at all right now...
personally, i would not tell him you are going off on your own to read a book... he doesn't want a marriage with you right now... wanting to have it both ways is not fair to you... i think you may want to let him know that in all fairness to you, you need space too... do you ask him where is going when he takes off? no you don't, and he wouldn't want you to do that... so it's only right that he give you the same space...
you are too focused on him... i know you have heard this again and again from a few of us... work to improve in this area... how? by GAL... enjoy your time to yourself tonight... that sounds like something i could use right now... going to a coffee shop and reading... i just may do that!
