I agree with you 100%. My circus, my monkeys, GF shouldn't and doesn't need to be in that. We had a long talk, she agreed with that (actually, she used the same words you did: none of my business and I have to let you deal with that).
For the schedule, don't know that it's going to be necessary. D calls her mom when she wants to and has more positive conversations now. Doesn't pretend to be tired or sassy, and I have to chase her off the phone when she has to go to bed. Makes me happy to see that. Maybe this works as a new normal everyone can live with.
Trying not to engage with XW, mostly successful. She still baits me, she got me to respond on Monday (D had a school project which was a timeline of her life. I had asked XW if she had any ideas for her milestones, she gave me a couple ideas and a couple of pictures).
Monday, XW was supposed to take D to Girl Scouts. Our troop leader decided we weren't going to have a full meeting because it was cookie delivery day. I found out Monday afternoon. The troop leader actually talked to XW before me, since I had already told her XW would have D for scouts that night. Get text from XW saying she had dinner and was going home with D, and I knew that, and I could have told her, and that this was getting old. I told her I had JUST found out.
I'm a bit irritated, since XW had her for hours, made me drive to her house to get her (instead of driving to school which is 4 miles from home, I had to drive 25 miles from work, then 30 miles home), and didn't do homework with D (apparently, D was too busy playing Rock Band with OM. Which XW sent me a video of. Who does that?)
So anyway, I get a text while shes with D saying, "D said there wasn't anything about me on her project. It's ok EastTN. Doesn't matter how much you try to keep me out of her life I'll always be there!" Should have ignored but responded, "Not about me either. About her. And yes there is something very much involving you on there." that's about the maximum she gets me engaged these days, so I guess that's good.
And then WTF moment this morning. I get a text that asks me if I still have a Sam's Club membership, because she needs to buy protein shakes and they're cheaper there. Why the heck does she do stuff like that? Is she honestly expecting a "hey, sure, use my sam's club membership anytime you want?" or "I'll pick some up for you tomorrow and drop them off?" What the heck?
