Originally Posted By: mbe76
Originally Posted By: Amoafwl

Furthermore...if you do stop actively pursuing her, then of course, she will be upset about it. But why is that a bad thing?


I have done a lot of reading, and I am beginning to get it. Distance and time, I cannot control her feelings let alone her thoughts.


This is the hardest part for me. Having no control over her, or her actions. Etc.

Whenever I start feeling like I have control I repeat to myself: YOU CAN'T CONTROL HER. YOU CAN'T CONTROL HER. YOU CAN'T CONTROL HER!

Obviously not trying to control her is a big part of detaching.

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