Not sure what to do. . .can anyone help?

[mbe76]

I've just been to a Lawyer, if nothing else, to get a sober view on the D if it were to happen.

I am still very torn, I love her but I cannot continue if she is still WW with thought and emotions committed to the OM.

She shows no desire to repair the R right now, so having read Sandi's excellent piece on how to deal with WW's and the advice about not being a pursuer etc. and following the 180 route, that is what I will do. I am in the process of writing my values and a new covenant to myself and reconnect some GALs in life, I will be a better person, and if she chooses to be with me then fine, if not, I will carry on anyway.