I honestly don't know- I am between a rock and a hard place, she can't have her cake and eat it, and although she has said she is no longer contacting the OM, I don't believe her.
I mean....she IS right now, isnt she?
Originally Posted By: mbe76
She has got some valid points about my behaviour- but, she takes no responsibility in all of this- and blames me for everything- she chose to cross the line and have an affair- and although she says she hasn't physically seen him for weeks- she has been carrying on the EA by texting etc.
SHe had sex with this guy, and she wants you to be OK with her continuing to talk and flirt and message? Sounds like she is only back home out of convenience. If she had to choose you or him, where do you think she'd pick?
If it were me, I would not be OK being in that relationship. I guess thats up to you to decide. My feeling is that as long as you are OK with it, she has no motive to actually change.
Originally Posted By: mbe76
In terms of GAL it is really tough, as when I come home from work, I am doing what I can in terms of cleaning the children's mess up/ dinner plates etc. then putting them to bed, I then cook our evening meal (as I have always done) the only thing I can honestly say I am doing for myself is going the Gym and taking time out to go and speak with my priest for moral/ emotional support. I am going to see a Solicitor tomorrow to hopefully gen up on the legal side etc.
Excuses. Have you read anything from 25yearsmlc? You should see the list of GAL activities she could do. And thats while being in Alaska!
Why are YOU in charge of all of the cooking and cleaning? What is she doing to contribute to the household?
