Not sure what to do. . .can anyone help?

[mbe76]

So I went to the M Counsellor today, and although my W decided not to, I felt it important to go for my own peace of mind. I found it really helped, the M Counsellor did say that if W decides to go to Counselling, the first session needs to be her alone. I get that.

I know that many of the things I said and did caused a slow rot in our relationship a long time ago, but we are all here with the perfect 20/20 vision of hindsight- but what I am struggling with is the whole crossing the line into an affair. She says she has stopped messaging him- but as so many people have already said- I believe nothing.

So for now, I think I will adopt much of the 180 approach, I usually initiate the small talk though, so that will be tough, as I don't want her to think I am in a mood- any thoughts on that?