The very best thing you can do for yourself and your daughter is detach as lovingly as possible. Really put the principles of alanon to work. Do you have an alanon sponsor?
There (in detachment) you will find a host of things: peace, real control of the only thing you have control over (yourself), strength, calm.
You have an opportunity here to take a deep breath and think about what you want - for your daughter, for yourself. How do you want to spend the rest of your life. There are others here who have spouses who are active in their alcoholism or addictions, or a merely on a raging dry drunk like mine was for years. I believe very strongly in marriage and family, but I also am pragmatic enough to know that only an alcoholic can do the work to fill that gaping hole inside with something other than substances.
In essence, I am on the side of leaving them to it and focusing on your own recovery. Trust that if you're meant to be together down the road, that will happen, but first you both have work to do individually.
I hope this helps xoxoxoxo
M 20+ T25+ S ~15.5 (BD) BD 4/6/15 D 12/23/16
"Someone I loved once gave me A box full of darkness. It took me years to understand, That this too, was a gift." ~ Mary Oliver
