I will not say the others did not spot the behavior. I think they just didn't want to confront and hubby can be convincing. Sad to say only two saw through.
He does not own weapons. We have separate accounts. His requests after I went back to work. He didn’t want to mingle finances all of a sudden but when he was the only one with income he trusted me to handle all the bills. Now that I work again he says I don’t contribute and he took over his portion of the bills and pays them separately. I pay bills, buy grocery, care for kids, etc. I know we tag team it but not according to DH.
We have the no-fault divorce option. He says I can divorce but will not agree to this route. The final choice is fault (desertion, impotency, adultery, bigamy, incest, and cruel and inhuman treatment)
Not much financial support can come from DH because he is on disability (not bed ridden type disability though). So I have been doing much figuring on how to support myself and teens. DD should be starting a job soon. Saving now but very little. I have family to go live with but prefer to live on my own and trying hard to keep it that way.
It is confusing because he loves family time and we do a lot together. He loves getting in the kitchen with us occasionally, and helps support us financially. I can call on him when needed and he will take care of whatever I need.
However, he just can’t get rid of the controlling attitude and jealous ways. It has killed us. So now that he’s no longer here physically, he tries convincing the teens to go with me every time the vehicle moves.
So there is three months left and I wanted to make sure I've done all I can. I am a member of another support group for abuse.
