As others have said, sometimes its not the waywards fog that is lifted, but the fog of the LBS.
Im sorry Psy. But you will be so much better off. My ex left over 2 years ago. For me it was getting over the gaslighting and cruelty. But i do not in any way miss my ex and his behaviors. Nothing changed for the worse for me since hes been gone. Its slowly getting better.
I know for you it was a matter of saving the marriage for your children. I said the same thing. I am the only person in my fairly large amd traditional family to be divorced. But my son has really handled this amazingly. I am glad that he will not be witness to my ex's selfishness and my resentment and our bickering and fighting.
Marina, i do not know your story but will try to catch up. I am thinking that its not your wife that died, but perhaps your seeing the real her. Peoples true natures come out when life gets real. It just takes a while to discover.
