Thanks Steve85. I wish I would be so clear-minded and straight-forward like you. Don't react is some good advice, especially since I tend to overreact. Yes, being manipulated is in general one of the biggest fears in life of my husband.
I like what you wrote about staying. It sounds like the contrary of what my H says: If he would go for reconciliation this would be like bowing to me and then I would start abusing him forever. Certainly, the LRT can slow down the process of separation, maybe stop it and freeze the current sitch. But before my H would decide to stay for one more trial, he must get a positive view on reconciliation. So I wonder how this could happen. I have to accept that I cannot influence him in this regard, can I? Definitely, I can focus on myself.
