He wants his space, I'm giving it to him. He can't have it both ways.
in the words of my favorite character in the movie Tombstone, Doc Holliday as played by Val Kilmer, "I beg to diffa, Sir."
he is having it both ways in many, many ways... you cannot have it both ways... and what i mean by that is, either you are letting him have it both ways or you are not... and the truth is, you are... i just don't want you to fool yourself into believing you are giving him his space... i don't want you to fool yourself into believing you are detaching... please believe me when i say i am not telling you this to hurt you or deflate you... i just want you to see that you are not quite there yet... that's all...
i fully understand your breaking down after hearing back from your boys... i have two boys, and we live in Santa Cruz... they often go to the mountains, and there have been times when they have been out of touch for too long, and my husband and i do everything we can to figure out where the heck they are... we've called PD, sheriff, friends, friends of friends, etc... we have even filed a missing person's report for one of our sons--twice! you have been holding things together, somehow... because you are resilient! and this incident also shows you are resourceful...
i am glad you didn't cave and ask your H to stay... the more you are able to fight that urge... to overcome that urge, the easier it will get... stay that course, girlie... okay?
