It seems as if you both began a relationship with lies. You know that isn't a very good foundation for a relationship. it's hard to trust the other person when they begin with lies, and you both did.
Could there be a clean slate start over? Who knows. But you mention HQ came to live by you. So maybe you just need to write this one off as a learning experience.
I kissed a married guy one night when I was drunk. Well, we kissed eachother. My self-righteousness was definitely put into check right there and then. My ex husband was my friend's BF. The karma train promptly hit me on that one. We are actually very close friends, and boy am I fortunate for that. I was in a very low place where I wanted to die and everyone in my life had abandoned me, and he was there. My therapist says it was my way of survival, and it doesn't define who I am.
