Flying Blind

[Dawn70]

Thanks for sharing that personal story and for adding why it ended. Like Coconut, I was curious, but was waiting to see if you would tell us the rest of the story. LOL Inquiring minds want to know, right?

You know, I really thought about all you said after I read it. I have been in that place of self-righteousness myself and it is sometimes hard to realize it. Years ago, long before I even met my XH, I was the OW on more than one occasion with college guy (yes, the college guy I mentioned here a few months ago). We had, from the very first time we met, this amazing, undeniable connection, but our lives just took us in different directions, which has told me more than once that ultimately, we are not meant to be. It was REALLY easy for me to forget that I had been an OW when I found out my XH cheated. All my anger was turned on him and I felt so incredibly self-righteous about the whole thing: how dare he, who does he think he is, etc. But, I have come to realize lately (and your post brought it to the forefront of my mind yet again), that I have been in the same position that my XH's OW put me in and I made someone else's wife (now XW) feel the same way I did and I don't like it. Not my proudest moment.

Thing is, Jeep....Don has a point. She lied about being MARRIED, you just shaved a few years off your age. It isn't like you told her you were 30 when you were 46. You told her you were in your 40's....just not as far in as you actually were. Seems to me "hiding" a husband is a much greater "sin" than deleting a few years, but that is just my opinion.