Today was not a good day. He has been cold and distant the last 2 days and we ended up in a conversation about R. Not good.
In leaning on his friends he thinks I am being fake. I am buttering him for something or I am allowing him to remain trapped by getting him a motorcycle so that he can't leave.
KitCat, this is why you must make the changes for you--PLEASE GET THIS...
like others have said, this is not going to change over night... your changes have to be real... you need to give it time, and you need to GAL so your changes become a part of you... the motorcycle thing was quite obvious... it could only come across as your trying to hold on to him... the thing is, just because he buys a motorcycle with your permission does not mean he is going to stay with you...
from what you say, you will be living together until he finally moves out... at that point, maybe you can start working on yourself... however, i think it is crucial that you start NOW... even while he is still living there... have you read the book? you do not seem to be putting basic DBing into practice... too many R talks... too much pursuit... you are not allowing him space... in all fairness, neither is he allowing you space... BOTH OF YOU ARE ALL OVER THE PLACE...
your mind set needs to be that you will be fine no matter what... you need to take your eyes off of him... work on YOU!!! like i said before, "live your life to the hilt!" and leave him alone... because you are too busy living your life to the hilt!
