This much I know is true

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Another area is acting more like an equal part of a relationship. I remember my ex had many extracurricular night time activities related to her job. And on top of those, she would have other lunch or afternoon outings. Meanwhile, I never went out because either I was watching the kid(s) or when she was home, I would want to spend time with her. My life centered around the family and the home completely, and I totally lost my identity in that.

This struck a chord with me, as it's how I used to act before BD. Like you, I realised this wasn't attractive in anyway. In some strange way, I'm thankful for the situation I'm in as it's allowed me to think about the person I want to become.