WW, wlc, Waw or What?

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Just venting/journalling.

D9 has had some issues on and around the shift days recently. She has had belly aches at night, mostly when at her moms place. She clearly had some minor "going to sleep" problems some weeks ago also when with me, but they would go away with a hug or some comforting words. So nothing too much and easily resolved.

Anyway, XW booked an appointment with the family counselor so D9 had a non-parent adult to talk to, and I was invited as well. Just in case the counselor had a message from D9 to her parents. When I got there, it quickly became obvious that XW had booked an appointment in the wrong office, 25 km from the local office in our town ... She was on the phone with someone trying to set up a new appointment when I got there. I just turned around and left without saying a word. Now take a wild guess: Did I get an apology for taking time off from work and waste my time on that.... Off course not.

Anyway, today was the new appointment, I picked D9 up from school and we went. The counselor seemed surprised that I was there as well, so I have no idea what he and XW had discussed on the phone when arranging the appointment. (XW was the one that invited me).

D9 probably didn't talk with him for more than 10 minutes. Anyway we were called back in, and the counselor told us he was impressed with D9. She is clearly a good kid on all accounts, had no problems telling him what life is like, impressive in defining her own issues etc.  Basically life is good for her (considering the two homes situation), exept for the minor issue with the belly aches.

Oh BTW. The counselor said that D9 clearly was equally happy living in both homes and that it wasn't all that normal for girls that age, as they normally prefer moms place. So he told me that I should pat myself on the shoulder and take D9's words as a giant cadeau. Not that I was all that surprised, as I know that I'm a great parent. Still nice to hear it from a pro though (and also nice to have it mentioned in front of XW).

So basically nothing new came out of the meeting, that I didn't already know. But clearly XW wasn't happy. There was something that she wanted to discuss with the counselor but not in front of the kid. So they agreed to save it for a later occasion. Come on... What do they want... She has just been told by a counselor that her daughter is thriving and doing great on all accounts. Still apparently not enough. Did she hope that our kids would be starving and mentally suffer on my watch... I can't win here LOL

The mind reading never goes away though. I still wonder what her game is every freakin' time I have some sort of interaction with her.. grrrrrr. And oh yeah, she is still not comfortable around me or sligtly nervous or whatever.. No idea why she is like that though.