Thanks, JujuB. As for my LRT, I started a few months ago but I have never got to day 20. I always start from scratch. I will put much more effort to it now, manage it like an important project (which it is in a way) and posting helps :-)
I actually have alread experienced the too little too late effect in a special way. My GAL started with an ugly bomb drop (in a series of bomb drops) from his side. I fell sick then and lost a few pounds which was the starting point to lose far more pounds, to buy new clothes, dress up for work, start exercising again and so on. Some day, he admired the effects of my GAL but used it as a weapon against me. He said that this only proved that I didn't took his former expectations seriouly. I have no clue how to interpret this, how to react on this and whether I have to adjust something regarding my GAL if he is reacting in such a way.
In this regard, I have another question: In phases where I am quite successful with my LRT, I realize certain effects on my H. At first, he gets more relaxed and friendly. After a while however, seeing me upbeat and not pursuing him or initiating relationship talks, he seems to feel uncomfortable and blames me that I wouldn't take his wish to separate seriously that I would pretend normality where there isn't and that I would sit out separation. In a way, he expects that I have to do actions to press ahead with separation. Isn't this his job?
Maybe I shouldn't reflect too much on his reactions and simply move on. But I cannot ignore if he confronts me with such strange reactions and I need to have an idea how to answer instead of being lost for words.
