Sorry man. I am in a similar sitch and limbo [censored]. No doubt about it. Wayward Wives (WW for short) are a tricky, emotional roller-coaster. So you need to buckle up for the ride.
Couple of quick things. Rule #1, believe NOTHING she says and only 1/2 of what she does. This is the best rule you can live by. She will rarely say the truth. She will manipulate, lie, embellish, rewrite history, justify, downplay, etc etc etc. Everything that comes out of her mouth is to accomplish what she wants, and that doesn't include the truth.
Secondly, things WILL get worse before they get better. So you need to DETACH (Cadet will be along to give you homework, please do all of the reading he sends because it is invaluable). Detachment is the only way you can get through the emotions and remain consistent. This is hard. I am struggling with it myself.
Finally, if you get luck enough to have sandi2 engage with you in this thread, listen to her. She knows the other side, what WW think and do. She will give you insight that you won't get anywhere else.
M(53), W(54),D(19) M-23, T-25 Bomb Drop - Dec.23, 2017 Ring and Piecing since March 2018
