Spring Cleaning

[DonH]

I'm putting my boards away - well done G! I can only imagine how much harder it is with a 10 year old detective on the case although that too might be an opportunity. I really think a lot of your D (as much as I can for never meeting her) and I know how close you two are but it seems like sometimes she forgets or wants to forget that she is a child. This might be a good place for a firm boundary with her - and one with great life lessons. Being firm with her in that this is an adult R and one kids need not involve themselves in at this point. Reassure her that if things progress that the time will come where she meets and interacts with him but that time is not now. This may result in her trying even harder so that if she figures it out, she is "rewarded" by meeting him sooner, because she knows anyhow and the "secret" is out. That wouldn't be good but it's exactly what a sharp kid would do. So even if she does find out a few details, don't enguage! D10 "I know who you went on a date with." G: "you may or you may just think you do. Either way, we are not discussing it unless it becomes serious. What would you like for lunch?" Don't let her push you into revealing anything before its time - or you are ready.

As a guy, one thing that has impressed me most is when a woman invites me to do something and/or offers to pay. This was more impressive when I/we were younger but still impresses. It really shows you are interested and engaged, not just taking what you can get. While I never thought women who didn't do this were taking advantage or anything, but agreeing to go out is one level. Asking someone out and or paying is a whole other level.

I'm excited for you Ginger!