Thank you all so much for your posts. I am rational enough to know that you are right. Still, it is so hard for me to act against my emotions. So I have to ask questions repeatedly, to erase all doubts coming from my emotions.
JujuB, what do you mean with "changing to cater to him will make him the excuse that he is angrier because you should have done that before". Is it ok in our sitch to prepare meals together, have activities with the kids together and have some smalltalk? I mean stop being pleasant is not on the 180 list.
