Your WW is not exceptional or unusual to a typical wayward. I think you are having a lot of trouble accepting it. There have been many H's who would say the same thing about their WW, but they were in denial about it. Understandably, it is not easy to face.
As an observer, the description you have written out about how she likes and wants to continue the flirtation and connecting with other men......paints her as a spoiled child and you as the enabling parent. The behavior she is engaging everyday is not appropriate for a married woman. You can down play it all you want, and cover with excuses of how she loves to sing.........but in your heart, you know this is wrong. Why can't she sing along with CD's or join the church choir? Why does it have to include another man, and sexual flirtation? I'll tell you why, b/c the karaoke app is nothing more than a vehicle to hooking up with other men. I know, b/c I basically did the same thing.
She is playing you, and you are helping her by buying into the deceit. Her finding men who are long distant, will not stop the decay it's causing in the MR.
Do you think your W would choose a phone app over her M? Sounds crazy, doesn't it? But she will choose the app over you. If you don't believe me, just tell her you want her to stop, or to choose.......and you'll see how serious this has become. Here's the cold facts. It doesn't stop at flirting.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
