Whenever I start thinking I'm lagging too far behind the others I stop and ask myself "but are YOU getting a good workout?" Because that's all that really matters.
Yeah totally! My aim with xfit first will be to learn the proper form and execute it well, and then load up over time. I want to be able to do this for many many years to come, so bad form just leads to injuries and then you're toast. I am taking the same approach with my climbing. I tried to go up the skill grades really fast and realized that I was just climbing sloppy and pushing my fingers beyond what they can do right now and risk injury. So, I scaled back massively and adjusted my goals to become a 'good, smart, and technically proficient' climber, rather than one that can climb the hardest grades. The hard grades will come in time and I want to enjoy the process rather than just focus on some outcome.
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You're about 9 months post-BD now, for me that was just about the time that I started coming to grips with the fact that my M was not just going to "go back to normal" at some point and I was having to come to grips with establishing a "new normal". Part of that is figuring out who you are, what you want, and how you are going to go about that. It's a transition phase and there's a lot of soul-searching and confusion that goes with it. Try not to think of it as "being stuck" but rather as another step in the process of becoming who you will be moving forward.
Yeah you're right AS.
I am digging deep right now to understand who I am and what I want, and the process of getting there. I saw W today briefly and I looked at her and thought to myself - do I really want to be with her? It wasn't an immediate yes but a weak maybe.
I think the sitch is heading into D territory slowly, which I am fine with. The growing pains of shedding the 'husband' identity and coming up with a personal identity has definitely been the process right now. I am getting there!
