I see some similarities in our sitch's except that my wife is home all of the time. All of her illicit behavior is online. But the push pull of "I want out" and "I want to stay" is there too.
I need to step up my GAL efforts, and I need to do more to detach from her. But every time I do she responds the opposite (draws closer). I have to stop falling for it and just keep the detachment going. Another author that I had a paid consultation with said that the only way I would know her behavior was lasting was after she behaved that way consistently for months. She isn't there.
I said to her this morning in a short discussion something about her "not wanting to stay". She immediately said "I do want to stay". Believe nothing they say and only half of what they do!
Anyway, I will keep you in my prayers. And your family, and even your W.
M(53), W(54),D(19) M-23, T-25 Bomb Drop - Dec.23, 2017 Ring and Piecing since March 2018
