Jumping Rope

[giftd]

So today is her birthday, I texted her Happy Birthday and got back "Thanks, when can we sign papers". Last time we talked about it she said she wanted it to be as "painless as possible for everyone". So I said I wanted it to be in person friday, I'd like to look her in the eye when she tells me to sign it. This isn't a process that should be painless.

Which got me a reply of "This message is exactly the problem. You are done listening to whatever I have to said. we will meet friday, pick a time. if we don't meet friday I'm mailing them. The fact you think this is painless is bullshit."

I apologized for it upsetting her and explained that I meant more for me. If everything is painless and she's smiling and happy and talking to me like nothing is wrong I can't get over this. It doesn't make sense to me. If I can look into her eyes and see she really doesn't feel anything, then at least I know.

Everything I say is taken as an attack on her. I don't know how to change that perception. I've listened to her side of things but honestly she won't talk about what hurt or why, she pretends everything is fine and then brings up another thing to separate. I just feel like if it hurts so much, there's probably something she knows she hasn't tried or at the least still has feelings for me and we should talk about it before going to this step.