W texted me on saturday. She thanked me for everything. Said that she has learned alot about herself during this S/D. And that she is still in the process with herself.
I asked a clarifying question. Does she mean the process she talked in the very beginning? She is lost with herself, as a woman.
She replied yes, that too.
So that brings me to the question is this more MLC/other personal/age crisis than WW? I know it doesn't change anything.
It doesn't mean squat!! Just like the other b.s. she gave you. What does that mean to lose yourself as a woman? Nothing! She read or heard that garbage at the beauty saloon or wherever........and figured it sounded ultrasheik & modern, but those type of "explanations" for a woman breaking up her family have been around since the 60's.
She didn't know how to say good-bye, and that trash sounded as good a way as any to end it. But you are the one that keeps making too much of what she says now. You are straining and weighing every word that comes out of her mouth. Why? When you've been told not to believe what she says. I know you are still trying to figure it out, but you can't, Petri. And when you ask her these type of questions, well it makes you look like you're glued to her every breath.
No, she was not speaking in some mysterious language. No, she is not in more crisis or a different crisis. However, you will be in one, if you don't stop trying to make sense out of nonsense. I mean, you even stumped her by your question of clarification. B/c it is all b.s. coming out of her mouth.
You can't fix crazy. Just let it be, and stop trying to figure it out.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
