I mean sometimes I'm just in another room for an hour while he sites in the bedroom gaming on his laptop watching a tv show he has seen before. I happen to come into the bedroom - he looks at me and says "what have you been doing?"
I tell him I'm going to work for a few and then for a drive - "where?"... He calls "what are you doing?"
What should I say? The man thought at one point I was sleeping around. Uh, never. But if he point blank asks what do I tell him that won't make him angry and pushing him farther away?
My H has "firearms"... lol he does not have guns. I write it like that because I can actually H say that. My husband may have a temper and may raise his voice but he has never tried to hurt me and wouldn't. In all reality since all this happened my husband has been more calm, I've been more calm. He used to get fired up and call names but that has long since stopped. We have learned to disagree and be frustrated without going down that route. Honestly, its much nicer there than it has been in some time.
I am not afraid of my safety - H has never given any reason that I should.
