I used to post on bere as Julieh. When i came on, my ex had already left. He had been sleeping in a basement and avoiding me for the prior year while we went to marriage counseling. In which he basically complained that i didnt keep the house clean. That was his major problem. Although he later told me i was verbalky abusive and kept him from all his friends. We had moved in with my parents because i though we were saving for a house.
I was dping everything to appease him and make things easy on him. Hold back on complaints and reactions (i definitly had trouble with this)
It never made sense why we did not have money. He was a professional that went to top schools had top degrees and earned 6 figures.
When he left he would not pay child support and i was actually on here unsure if i should enforce it because i was agraid to make him angry!!!
I only worked part time because son is special needs and was only in preschool at the time.
Well after i finally got to look at his bank statements i saw that for years he was spending high amounts in bad neighborhoods (800 per week withdrawals in addition ti faily with drawals of 100 dollars) credit card statements showed 5 years of high sums from different liquor stores. They showed expensive dinners out as well (at times when i was pregnant and recovering from surgery) they showed he was not at work when he said he was.
Meanwhile me and my parents were rearranging everything to make his life easier because he was supposedly so stressed from his job!
