The timeshare was H's decision. I didn't want it but he seemed so excited and I felt it was emasculating him to keep telling him no all the time.
He readily admits it was his call as were the house improvements. He doesn't blame me for those.
To be frank - I know in my heart that if I hadn't dropped the ball in paying my husband attention things like house, the finances, the commute would be the extreme issues they are. My husband always felt rewarded and appreciated so he gladly did those things.
I know he feels strongly that he told me these things. He was voicing his concerns. He asked 3yr ago to go MC. I didn't think he was serious. I didn't see the issue. I wasn't hearing his unhappiness. THAT - is my fault.
We are not fin destitute. We are in good shape actually. His complaint right now is high mortgage payment. We have high property taxes but I refinanced to pay off in just 12more years so he could retire and we would have no mortgage. He wants to refi and lower our monthly payment but we would just end up paying more interest, but I see his point.
Part of me drags my feet with the fins now because it seems as soon as the two bills he wants to pay for are gone he is out of the picture and moving on. That is something he knows I do not want so I'm not motivated to meet his financial goals because it means the end is in sight.
