Right now the only reason he hasn't already left is he wants to pay down some joint debt (namely house repairs - now down, and timeshare purchase that he wanted but we both regret).
He is trying to set me up to be able to pay all household expenses on just my income so he can leave and not feel guilty I couldn't make it.
We've had a role reversal. I was in charge of the finances and always said no and he balked at when I limited him and complained about budgets. NOW - he is trying to be cheap and not spend money, complains about what I spend at grocery store and is saying no AND I'm like if you want it (new truck, motorcycle) go ahead and buy it.
He is in the mindframe that life is too short not to live it which is why he wants to leave.
I realize the last 2 days are breadcrumbs.
I'm trying to back off and give him space. Last night he talked in his sleep almost the entire night. Wish I knew what he was dreaming of.
I'm tempted to ask that he show me the property he wants to buy but that is probably a bad idea?
