Always love your feedback!! Chuck has been so instrumental in my journey. In regards to action, I start doing ok with the actions such GAL and 180's but then i fall apart for a day. I then start to GAL and do 180s again. What is difficult and what causes me to remain stuck and undetached is when I watch him make more steps into the divorce. For example, he is moving into his sisters house. This caused so many emotions in me and then I broke down for a day or two. I know that detachment is a process. In all honesty, I think I fear detachment because deep down it scares me to know that if I detach he is gone forever.
I am well aware, that this is not true and that I cannot control his behaviors nor his choices. But if I am being honest, this is what is probably causing me to remain stuck. People come to these forums to find support. I know for me this was the main reason as well as to hear success stories. The reconciliation stories are hopeful but are few and then sometimes I feel defeated. This is the honest truth. I keep thinking about what my husband said last " I do not want a divorce but it is what I need." This kills me and I hate it
