spoke to my DB coach Chuck today which was great today. My WAH is moving some stuff out of the house tomorrow to move to his new place. His suggestions where to either help him move or if I emotionally could not do it, then let him know that and just do other things.
Chuck is stand up coach and helped me quite a bit in the early stages...I still have a couple off sessions I can use when the time is right. It is good to hear he is still around and helping so many through these difficult times. Pay heed to all that he coaches you on.
Originally Posted By: winner
When you say I need to take action what do you mean?
Action is the very source of all success. We can talk about how to do things and speak about how things should or should not be... Without action, nothing changes.
DBing is about action...setting goals and then taking action. We then review the actions and compare to the desired outcomes If it is working we continue forward...if it is not we adjust and take action again.
MWD is an action oriented therapist and encourages that we seek out action oriented counselors and support, because drudging up the past to figure out all the reasons that we are "broken" or are in bad relationships does not create change...and IMHO, often times we create more monsters and demons analyzing the past because we don't truly remember it as it was...we attach meaning where there was none... But that is conversation for another time.
You have spoken of your desire and need to detach...healthily I hope...but I have not heard what steps you are taking...
Originally Posted By: winner
What would you suggest?
What have you done to learn and practice the art of healthy detachment?
I can suggest ideas as I learn what you have done so far.
Me 46 Former W 46 D19 D7 BD Feb 2016 WAW moves out 4/16/16 D final 6/1/2017
It's time for me to start changin' the way I look at the world......and at myself. ~James Howlett aka Wolverine
