I echo what J just said. I was all over the crumbs early on... it really wrecked me, especially in the first few months after BD. The crumbs were so tempting that I railed against DB, thought my case was totally different than others here, and didn't really commit to the rules.
My wake up call was when I temp checked her as I was tired of the crumbs because I couldn't tell if they were crumbs or genuine attempts from her. She put me in my place.. HARD.. like CRUSHED ME...
It made me feel so small, pathetic, desperate, and beta male. I vowed I would not do that again and I never wanted to feel that way again. I committed back to the rules and it has helped me immensely to grow, detach, and figure my life out. I've had an emotional setback recently, but I am back on track.
Just know that if she can drop BD on you, then she can very well show you without a doubt that she wants to recon or work on the MR or whatever. If she's throwing crumbs, they are what they are.. nothing more... don't be tempted to think that she is throwing crumbs because she is meek or trying to test things out... it is definitely not that... especially in the beginning.
