I don’t have a plan and am trying to live one day at a time. I am trying to be happy irrespective of my M status. I am neither M not D right now and trying to be happy in that place.
How is that working for you ?
Pretty sure that in your life, when you were asked what you wanted to be when you grow up...
"I'm just gonna take it one day at a time" wasn't the answer that you gave....
So, what is YOUR plan ??
For you...
Not her...
Not the Marriage...(cause you are and aren't right now)
Nobody else there when the lights go out...
YOUR plan ???
Because I can tell you this. MLC or not...
A wayward spouse will never return to a marriage unless they feel that things will and can be different than before...
Originally Posted By: Gordie
Originally Posted By: Mach
And I know that you said that you are "taking the pressure off" of her..Are you doing it to induce a reaction from her ??
I am not trying to get a reaction from her. I am going against my ingrained desire for pursuit and wanting to show her how much I love her.
That IS trying to get a reaction from her.
You are showing her "how much you love her" as if she is still your wife, from a few years ago.
And exactly what I have been saying to you.
You trying to show her how much you love her...IS you trying to get a reaction from her...
You are doing it, hoping she will see, and change her mind, and come running towards you, in a meadow of flowers, screaming that she loves you too....
Convince me that I am wrong ???
Originally Posted By: Gordie
Originally Posted By: Mach
Or because you are seriously tired of her bulllsiht and you are ready to just live your life...
???
You know what I’m really tired of? I am tired of never being enough for her. She always finds fault with me.
The reason that you feel that way, is because you have convinced yourself that it is okay to accept less for yourself...
Who is responsible for that ?
Wanna say it together ???
Click to reveal..
You are..
Originally Posted By: Gordie
No, I do not want to be that guy. Yes, I’ve got issues. I think I have been more focused on fixing the M and yes, I need to spend more time fixing me.
To be continued...
Then what are you waiting for ??
You know how to find me....
And I am here for you whenever you are ready for change..
