P....IMO removing people from Facebook, Instagram, etc. is just a ploy by the LBS to get some reaction from the WW. I am still friends with my W on Facebook but I never go on Facebook so for me it's whatever. I am not in high school.
I can tell you from my personal experience if you follow Sandi's rules to a T you will begin to detach, heal yourself and gain confidence. Your W has a confirmed OM, there is nothing more to say. Time for P to start enforcing his boundaries.
I did not have a confirmed OM in my sitch (although I have always thought there was) but when my W told me she wanted to Separate in 3 months and stay in the house I told her it wasn't going to work for me and she needed to move out ASAP. She moved out within 3 weeks and then I told her she needed to open up her own bank account. Once she did and her checks got re-directed I took away her debit card to our joint account, credit card and checkbook. We agreed on a financial arrangement and I went as dim as I could due to the kids. If she wanted to move out then these things were going to happen.
If you follow Sandi's rules to a T, I mean eat, sleep and breathe them, you will move forward with your dignity in-tact whether you save your MR or not.
I get it you have kids, mine are younger than yours. It does suck for them but I can tell you from my personal experience that if you are fine, they will be fine. My children are as happy as they have ever been.
You are hanging on to something that no longer exists. It is a horrible experience and I am truly sorry but it is time to let go. Letting go for me started by expediting our Separation and enforcing Sandi's rules.
