It's pretty great. We've been together 3 years now. It hasn't all been smooth sailing, but overall it's been an awesome experience!
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Today being V day, it's easy to feel kinda down. But then reading what you wrote, I started thinking about sex life with W and how it was so sub par and how I truly do not want to go back to that. I need a dynamic partner who is fairly comfortable with their body and loves having fun.
I don't want to turn the forums X-rated but W and I always had what I thought was a pretty good sexual relationship. But holy cow, the experiences I've had since our D, wow. I mean WOW. I've dated some really beautiful young women that are major pleasers. I've lived every fantasy I ever had as a hormone-raging kid and then some, haha! At first I could scarcely believe these women were attracted to me, I think after BD we tend to feel like no one wants us and we're just pathetic, ugly losers. But once you start to realize there's a whole slew of women that are highly attracted to mature, successful men and you EMBRACE it and OWN it then the world is your oyster. When you do get around to dating I have an important tip for you- not every woman will find you attractive. Maybe you're too short, or too tall, or don't have enough hair, or have too much or whatever. THAT IS NOT REJECTION. It's just a mismatch. Skip her and move on. Too many guys take every mismatch personally and build up all kinds of crazy resentment over nothing. But look at it this way, if you have to meet 10 women to find 1 that is CRAZY for you then who cares what the other 9 think.
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So, thanks for the perspective. I am looking forward to having some awesome time between the sheets with someone way more dynamic.
It will happen when you are ready!
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Not just for the fitness aspect, but also for the community aspect.
Exactly why I recommend it, a few months in you'll have a whole other family. I'm so busy that I don't do much with them outside of the gym, but there are a lot of opportunities for that as well.
Originally Posted By: LH19
I just want to second CrossFit as the way to go. I started in December based on AS's recommendation and I fuching love it. I have worked on in a gym for years by myself with my headphones and it got monotonous.
CrossFit is totally different. It's very sociable and the workouts are different everyday. Other members encourage you to be better. I can already notice the muscles building in my legs that I would not do in the gym because I didn't like working on legs. Now I am forced to and loving the results.
It is a little pricey but is definitely worth it if you can swing it.
Awesome, glad to hear you're enjoying it! Agree with you on the legs, I was never big on doing legs at the gym but you have no choice in xfit, LOL! I was just driving in this morning thinking my work slacks are so tight in the quads/ hamstrings that soon I'll have to start getting tailored pants (I've needed tailored shirts for years). If you didn't sign up for the Open then I highly encourage you to do it, even if you don't think you're ready when next year rolls around you will be, and you'll wish you had the data from this year to compare your progress to.
Regarding the price, just for anyone out there reading this that doesn't know much about xfit, there is a lot of hands-on attention from coaches in the classes. So while it is more expensive than a traditional gym it is cheaper than a personal trainer. And while personal trainers are really just about pushing you to work hard, xfit trainers will coach you in proper form and technique in olympic-style lifting. It's money very well spent in my opinion.
