I love my husband but somehow over time and with kids, drama with his ex, life in general and jobs my husband has come to feel rejected by me. He said he couldn't figure out what he had done and for awhile just thought I was angry and he left me alone. He started to hate himself being stuck here with this commute and feeling unloved by his wife. I'm gutted that I didn't have a clue he was so hurt. He even went to feel that I was having an A - but I thought I was loving and devoted to my husband. He felt rejected because I wasn't holding his hand or touching him and it even got to where I was pulling away when he was hugging me (I got self conscious about weight I had gained - which now I have lost in the last 2 months.) He thought I did not want him...
He said he felt betrayed because if I was able to do all these things now that made him feel loved that I should have been able to do them before. I know he is angry.
this is what concerns me... you thought you were being a loving wife, and he thought you did not want him... could he be rewriting history to assuage his guilt? are you absolutely sure he is not interested in anyone else? i do not see what exactly he is angry about... the commute? you are willing to move, so how is this your fault? he felt rejected when you would pull away and such, but the only clue he gave you (and you missed--which i might have missed too) was when he started looking at houses? that could mean anything... that was not a good clue... he should have been upfront with you... personally, i don't believe what he is saying... i think he is rewriting things to make it seem like it's all your fault...
