Newbie In Need Of Guidance #2

[rminer]

I hadn't seen the first quote yet. That is helpful.

I had seen the second one.

I have started on boundries, mainly with the way she is talking to the family (kids and myself).

As far as making a plan to tell her, I still need to decide where I should start, meaning do I start with financial repercussions since she is a stay at home mom and has some of her own bills that I pay, or should I have her/me move out?

I've spoken to an atty, but have come up with a few more questions that I need answered, such as the affect of me vs. her moving out.