Quite frankly, a man thats not even capable of leaving his wife without another girlfriend to latch onto sounds CRAZY!! If i was searching for guys on line he would be a huge pathetic red flag. Maybe a low quality female with no self esteem would go for him knowing that hes living with his wife and kids and looking to date?
I know, I know. Its that golden dream of keeping a marriage intact. But thats just BS many of us that are in a really unhealthy dynamic and relationship tell ourselves here. A lot of these spouses arent poor misunderstood people with foo issues that we failed because of stressful lives, sickness, death young kids (note they usually leave after tjis). Many of them are entitled, selfish, and most importantly uncommitted. They leave when the going gets tough because they were never the committed people we thought they were.
This takes a little while to come to terms with.
If they do come back. They will probably leave again in the future. I have been on these boards only since 2015 and i have seen this a lot.
If your spouse is not committed to the relationship there is nothing you can do. Thats assuming you have a lot of power that you dont. A bit controlling. Another poster suggested this on your thread in an earlier post that if uou follow last reaort technique perfectly that in theory it will work. And i disagree.
What you do have the power to do is work on you. Give up trying to save your marriage. Work on yourself and how you are going to make your life great as a single mom. He told you he wants out. Accept that. Move forward.
Trust me there are other great things out there when you let go of someone that is emotionally disconnected to you to begin with.
