Newbie In Need Of Guidance #2

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Totally agree with Sandi -- you must have a plan and your "what happens next" fully thought through.

So are you saying that you don't think she would use me knowing about the A and not saying anything about it against me? My guess is, at some point when and how I found out will come out. I don't want it to make me me look weaker in her eyes.

The false-thinking of the LBS is that you are on the WAS radar at all. They are spending zero thought cycles thinking about you.

They are focused on getting what they want, which is usually emotional distance from you, and more time with their affair partner(s). That's all they think about.

You knowing about her affair is a mere inconvenience and she's going to focus on blowing past it using every means at her disposal, but primarily somehow making you the bad guy -- accusing you of spying on her, accusing you of being irrational, jealous, controlling, etc. etc.

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