Do all MLCer's think in these absolutes? 20 years of misery?
Meg...... from what I have read on this site and from my personal sitch this seems to be the case. My W has completely re written our entire 25 years together. Told me that she probably never loved me??? WTF?? My IC said this is what she needs to tell herself to justify her decision to be wayward. Remember Sandy's rules... believe nothing of what you hear!
Originally Posted By: meg24
The part I am struggling with the mostis detaching. I'm guessing that it's so difficult for me (I do well for 2 or 3 days, then fall back to the pursuit) is the fact that he still is at home. As much as I don't want H to move out on the 1st, I also can't wait so that it is not "in my face" every day. When I didn't see him for 3 days this past weekend, I actually did quite well.
Yes, my W and I lived under the same roof for 9 months after BD and moved out on Xmas eve. The detaching was very difficult with her there, I felt trapped in my own house and it wasn't good for my kids. Since she has been out detaching became so much easier along with GAL. It is still very hard to deal with and you will have your ups and downs but it does get better, I promise! Stay strong and keep busy.
