Newbie In Need Of Guidance #2

[rminer]

I've known about the A for almost two months. I think my W would probably use the against me saying i dont care. If it were reversed, I'm 95% she would have called me out by now.

No, that's the thinking of a LBH, not a WW.

So are you saying that you don't think she would use me knowing about the A and not saying anything about it against me?  My guess is, at some point when and how I found out will come out.  I don't want it to make me me look weaker in her eyes.

I commend you for taking the Alpha vs Beta, seriously.

Funny thing is, I've always seen myself as Alpha. Growing up, all the other kids followed me, which continued through college. I've been called a "Natural Leader" more times than I can count.  The more I look at my life, the more I can see that I've lost it somewhere along the way.

The OM would not be seen as Alpha by any other male, so I'm not sure why my W would see him this way, which I'm assuming she does.  He has very feminine qualities and mannerisms that no guy would yield to.

If a male wouldn't see him as Alpha, why would a female?