You can't treat your W like a kid. And that's what you did with those demands.
You told her to leave her phone unlock and limit the amount of time on the app, what are the consequences to her not doing those things. What are you going to do?
You are treating her like she is 14. You can't make demands and expect a person not to get defensive.
A better way to approach a situation where you find something disrespectful is to state what you will not live with in the M and what you are willing to do if she goes against that (boundaries not demands). Read up on boundaries and what the entail.
In other words, her using an app doesn't hurt you physically, so what kind of boundary can you create out of her using an app?
Those are questions you have to ask yourself before you go down the road of demanding something.
The best thing you can do in this situation, is detach and become a person only a fool would leave. Show her a man that respect himself. IMO you trying to force her to do those things makes you look weak.
No more demanding. Have your W decided she wants to be in the M? If not you need to detach, GAL, and do 180s. If you were demanding before than you have to 180 those situations. Stop pursuing her. Pull back and let go. Give her space.
She has created an alternate reality of the M, the only way for that to change is if you give her space and time to clear her head. You have to let go for that to happen.
Get ready for hardwork, prepare yourself for the roller coaster ride.
Onward and Forward.
Thank you Joe. I am 7 1/2 weeks in and it feels like it is just getting started.
M(53), W(54),D(19) M-23, T-25 Bomb Drop - Dec.23, 2017 Ring and Piecing since March 2018
