Did she ever see a specialist about low hormones? I am no doctor, but I read a lot. (Just a joke).
I never recall hearing from other women or reading anything about difficult pregnancies affecting their sex drive after the baby was born. Her hormone levels could have been too low. However, with the right meds, hormones can be helped to level out. Physical exhaustion or other issues can play a part in her interest. I do sympathize with her about back pain. I had it after my last child was born, and still do to this day. It played a big part in me not feeling like having sex, as much as my H wanted.
As for as her giving you the garden variety of excuses to S..........it makes me question what was in her heart. Holding resentment and disrespect toward her H is the foundation of a wayward mindset. Considering her physical issues, the children, and you being a man with NGS.........it's not hard to imagine how that could take seed and grow. The sad truth is that we women won't just come out and tell our H how we have resentment we can't get past. Many women won't admit they no longer feel attracted to their H, much less admit they have lost respect for him. Most women will complain, and talk about different things the H is not doing.......but they don't resolve the real issues at the bottom of it all.
I have posted a lot on the subject, so I hope I am not repeating myself.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
