Hi Marvin - I agree with your post for the most part.
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I always loved my wife and was attracted only to her because I loved her, and didn't have to work at Eros love. And when a new person triggered a momentary attraction it simply faded away when compared to what we had.
This describes the 'healthy' relationship. Not to say that before MLC hit there wasn't any action that way, but certainly much less than when we were younger. We are both in our 60's and once menopause is far back in the rear view mirror and testosterone decreases in the man, the 'action' decreases too. But Agape is stronger than ever... in a healthy marriage that is.
Enter MLC, and suddenly it's flipped around. Eros love is very important and Agape love... not so much. That momentary attraction that typically fades quickly in a healthy, strong marriage doesn't apply for someone in MLC. The MLCer cannot resist the temptation. If they could, then MLC's wouldn't involve affairs to the extent they do.
