I want to Stand, but think it's hopeless.

[Adios]

HaWho - sorry but I got distracted just when I was about to respond to you! But I'm back. I love what you say here:

My ex just moved out after years of marinating in MLC. It is a huge relief not to witness it all each and every day. I had no idea how much his presence impacted things even though he was behind a closed door for 3 years.

YES! So true. H didn't move out until 3+ months after BD. So much pain everyday watching him in his MLC. I found it impossible to detach! Once he moved out, life was peaceful and detachment became easier. And my H didn't have to wonder how I felt about what he was doing. He was free... to move forward without any hindrance from his old life. I really think that living apart speeds the progress through the tunnel.