Ginger, it was "can I?" Second one was a paraphrase, and I realize now it was a poor one. Dammit.
Amoafwl (really curious about the name change btw) I can see how she might be upset. If I'm overemphasizing it IS because it happens so damn much. I'm exhausted by it. My phone is basically PERMANENTLY on vibrate because just hearing the DING of a text message stresses me out sometimes. As far as the weekday time, she hasn't gotten D in the evenings for months. She's been snarky about it and made a comment to D once about taking her to girl scouts, and I just let it go and don't say anything. I WANT to reiterate: "YOU CAN GET HER ANYTIME DURING THE WEEK!" but I realize that's not going to help, and may make things worse.
GF really isn't happy about XW's seemingly constant presence in my life. It's caused problems. I can't blame her. I read something about people in her position (women who are with men who have a toxic ex) and I see "us" in there, and I feel ashamed for having put her through all of this (especially the crap from last June when I could have gone back to XW). I actually sent the article to my C so we could talk about it and I could better understand and to support GF through having to deal with "her part" (not that she has a part, but she takes enough) of it.
I'm trying to own all of it. I don't know that I'm doing a great job of it, but I try. She hasn't done a thing to deserve any of this except care.
