Perhaps him losing me was what motivated his change? Things are just different now. He knows what he wants and he goes for it. He is more confident and assertive. He is attentive, affectionate, and he is open with his thoughts and feelings. This is now coming from a place of strength and not fear. I like this change. Instead of drowning in guilt, he is fighting for what he wants.
So I am looking forward now. We enjoy each others company, we have fun, we laugh, and we are closer. We are planning several new things and trips this year, so there is much to look forward to. The more we move forward, the more he sees how delusional he was before. He can't even identify with the person he was that caused such destruction.
as a former WW, it took me a while to get to this stage, but it was necessary... i had to come to realize that it was quite right to reach this stage... otherwise, you get to a place where you are exhibiting false self-deprecation... false humility... the bible likens it to those who would throw dust and dirt on themselves to make themselves look sickly or weak to show how much they had sacrificed through fasting--to look more religious...
i learned that i must receive the grace that had been shown me... i needed to stop rejecting it as though i were unworthy, because--truth be told--i was unworthy... but that is what grace is about... making a way for those who cannot do it on their own... extending a hand to those who are unworthy--hence making them worthy...
