I also feel like if it were XW's weekend, I would have told her something like "hey, did you know Disney is in town this weekend? I bet D would love that" rather than saying "Hey, Disney is in town and I want to take her, let me have Saturday"
Really? Theres NO WAY Im making that kind of email to my XW. There are plenty of things I see that I think my elementary aged kids would like, but if it's not on my day, then I kinda just say "oh well." I kinda feel like you are overemphasizing some of XW's comments (which I understand because they seem SO frequent). But I know I would be upset if I were in her shoes asking to go to this cool thing and the response was wishy-washiness for a couple days until it was too late.
I wonder if this is residual from the parenting plan where she can kind of just 'ask' for time whenever she wants it. Where do those boundaries begin and end....
I am also curious how your GF is handling all of this. If I were dating someone that was having this much aggravated communication with their ex, it would be a big red flag for me. My relationship with my ex is certainly not on good terms, but Id say that we only have any real issue every 6-8 weeks. If there were something going on a few times every week, I cant imagine she would stay. This constant power struggle has got to be exhausting for everyone involved.
