Reading along, I find myself nodding in agreement. We all deserve to have a partner who is honest and committed to our relationship. And, like you, I agree it's better to be flying solo than "together" but in a lonely in a relationship with a person who is floundering. I did not realize how exhausting that was.

My ex just moved out after years of marinating in MLC. It is a huge relief not to witness it all each and every day. I had no idea how much his presence impacted things even though he was behind a closed door for 3 years.

Like you, I feel more positive about my life than I have in years.

I enjoy reading your posts; thanks for sharing.

Me 41, H 47, M 15 yrs, S11, S13
BD 1: 11/4/14 we work on it; really I pretzel myself
BD 2: 3/31/15 H goes down to "dorm room"
8/15: H back to MBR
10/15: H back in dorm room
1/18: H files, now divorced